First, I'm seriously wired by nature and am not someone who can stop thinking. I have learned to meditate very effectively once I learned some facts about real meditation.
Problem one is thinking that you can't meditate, or it's not real meditation if you have thoughts going through your head. You do NOT have to stop thinking, or empty your mind of thoughts...that will happen ON ITS OWN if you meditate correctly.
If you're closed-minded, your ability to reach deep states of meditation, or spiritual connectedness, is restricted. This is the way we are designed...scientifically. Meditation at its core, is meant to slow down brain waves, whether you know it or not. It's just like you may know how to drive a car, but have no clue what's going on mechanically. People will meditate for relaxation, healing, spiritual connection, communication, access to the infinite field of consciousness...whatever your reason, it is all only attainable directly as a result of slowing your brain waves to a certain frequency range.
The four major brainwave states/frequencies are: Beta, Alpha, Theta, and Delta in that order. More info is available on the specific states via the link in my bio. Meditation is mainly attempting to bring the brain to the Theta and Delta states. This is where everything happens: the connection, communication, healing, access to the quantum field of consciousness. So the point is to slow your brain waves.
You do need time, especially if you don't use tools to help you. It's just like trying to relax, except much deeper. You need time to relax...and you can also use music or other tools to help you. Meditation music was what I found to be the most helpful for me. Real meditation music...like with binaural beats. The music is specially made to influence your brain to slow down...to chill out.
Watch on things that raise the rate of your brain waves, like certain colors. Red, for example is a very high rate of vibration. Deep blue is among the slowest. I recommend keeping your eyes shut the whole time.
Most of the meditation music that I bought, was effective, but very long. I decided to make my own music which is made to bring the brain waves from Beta to low Alpha in less than 6 minutes, and then another music track that goes from low Alpha to low Theta in less than 6 minutes again.
